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Lesson 21 2026

I am determined to see things differently.
1. The idea for today is obviously a continuation and extension of the preceding one. ²This time, however, specific mind-searching periods are necessary, in addition to applying the idea to particular situations as they may arise. ³Five practice periods are urged, allowing a full minute for each.
2. In the practice periods, begin by repeating the idea to yourself. ²Then close your eyes and search your mind carefully for situations past, present or anticipated that arouse anger in you. ³The anger may take the form of any reaction ranging from mild irritation to rage. ⁴The degree of the emotion you experience does not matter. ⁵You will become increasingly aware that a slight twinge of annoyance is nothing but a veil drawn over intense fury.
3. Try, therefore, not to let the “little” thoughts of anger escape you in the practice periods. ²Remember that you do not really recognize what arouses anger in you, and nothing that you believe in this connection means anything. ³You will probably be tempted to dwell more on some situations or persons than on others, on the fallacious grounds that they are more “obvious.” ⁴This is not so. ⁵It is merely an example of the belief that some forms of attack are more justified than others.
4. As you search your mind for all the forms in which attack thoughts present themselves, hold each one in mind while you tell yourself:
²I am determined to see ____________ [name of person] differently.
³I am determined to see ________________ [specify the situation] differently.
5. Try to be as specific as possible. ²You may, for example, focus your anger on a particular attribute of a particular person, believing that the anger is limited to this aspect. ³If your perception is suffering from this form of distortion, say:
⁴I am determined to see ____________ [specify the attribute] in ____________ [name of person] differently.
(ACIM, W-21.1:1–5:4)
2025
I am determined to see my son’s impatience differently. I know this is not typical of him and is a result of his depression and anxiety, nevertheless, I judged him for it and felt irritated. I call it irritation because I tamped it down so that it didn’t reach the level of what I think of as anger.
But as Jesus tells us in this lesson, ⁵You will become increasingly aware that a slight twinge of annoyance is nothing but a veil drawn over intense fury. I may as well say that I was enraged by his impatience, which is just insane.
“That I remembered it so quickly suggests that some of that repressed rage was already seeping out.”
This is the problem of repressing rather than forgiving.
It is not really gone because we pushed it away. To be free, we must forgive it and thus let it go. And remember, we do this for all of us and thus free us all. Or we keep it and imprison ourselves (all of ourselves) in the world.
2026
I remember when I first read this lesson, how surprised I was to see this sentence: ⁵You will become increasingly aware that a slight twinge of annoyance is nothing but a veil drawn over intense fury. I recognized it as truth long before I understood it. What matters is that it has helped me become self-honest, which brings me closer to awakening. I no longer argue for my little anger, a habit that used to ensure I never let go of my fury, and so never awakened. Now, when I feel what I used to call a twinge of annoyance, I recognize the ego’s attempt to keep itself relevant in my life, and I mentally change gears. I choose full freedom because that is the only freedom.
I don’t just practice this lesson once a year – I have made it part of my daily life. So I am not as likely to think that the ‘little’ errors are less important. Jesus says that this is merely an example of the belief that some forms of attack are more justified than others. Because I am alert to this ego strategy, I have recently noticed that I have found ways to avoid forgiveness. I feel a twinge of anger, so I quickly reject the awareness of it, leaving only a feeling.
Here’s an example. Someone I know frequently asks me for favors. Sometimes I don’t want to comply but feel obligated to do so. Any thought of being angry is quickly tamped down, and all I’m left with is a feeling of friendship being abused. That quick feeling and its equally quick dissipation used to work, but now I am aware that this is just the way I was justifying the attack thought hiding as the feeling. Once seen, it is so clear that I realize it wasn’t accidental or even well hidden. I just didn’t want to see it. That way I could see myself unfairly treated and still keep my tarnished halo in place. It is no longer possible for this strategy to work now that it has been exposed.
I became determined to see this side of my friend differently, and now we are both free of my resentment.
I became determined to see my justification for keeping rage in place, and now I can become free of it.
I have become determined to see all subterfuge for keeping the ego in place, and now I see the way to total freedom.
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