January-March, 2009
I cannot know or see in another something that I don’t know within myself. This is where we are one. The seeds of all humanity lie within me. The form another takes to express part of me might be different than the way I have expressed, but what I perceive in them, I know in myself in some form or experience. What I see in another, I can see with compassion when I accept that part of my own humanity. When I can’t see with compassion but with resistance, a trigger, I know this is a part of me that I have not fully forgiven within myself. What does it mean to forgive, then? Forgiveness here means releasing self judgment around part of my humanity. In that release, the truth of who I really am is free to return to me and the way I see myself and the world.
The G.O.L.F. process is one that came to me as I repeated a pattern that I desperately wanted to change. It uses the energies of Gratitude, Oneness, Love and Forgiveness, but not necessarily in that order.
Here is how it works.
1. Choose a scenario you would like to see differently, one where you find yourself judging another person.
2. Get clear on what you perceive in them. They are being so…. Let yourself know the thoughts of why you think they are behaving this way.
3. Next start the thought of love, self love, by repeating and receiving the thought of “I Love You, I Love You, I love you” to yourself. Let yourself fill with the thought of self love.
4. Gratitude comes next. Bring in gratitude for you. For being this brave earth adventurer, willing to put yourself out there, take some knocks and share, give and receive love. Roll thoughts of gratitude to yourself along with this love.
5. When this feels solid, begin with the other person. They can be in the room with you or far away. Bounce the thought of love back and forth between the two of you. This may be difficult at first. It may be easy. Know that you are tapping in to love for the person behind the perceived problem. Remember parts you do love and allow the perceived problem to move away from your connection to this person, rolling the thoughts of I love you and I love you between you and them.
6. And, gratitude. Bring in the energy of gratitude for this person and for their walking this world with you, being a fellow earth adventurer on this path of life.
When you feel that soulful connect and that the problem is separate from both of you, it is time to bring in forgiveness.
7. Look at the perceived problem, either the energy of it that gathered away from you or the thoughts you defined in step two. Think love, gratitude and “I am so sorry for the part of me that created from the fear that (whatever you are perceiving in the other) back when I didn’t know. I am so sorry for the times that I have… my way, back when I didn’t know.” Feel the waves of forgiveness wash over these memories and continue with all that you perceived as a problem in another.
8. Think “Thank you for helping remember what I DO know now. My truth. Thank you for helping me remember that…”
Enjoy the feeling of relief, expanded truth and knowing within you. Take powerful loving actions from this space, knowing that the shift is felt universally and the other is open to something new now, too.
One day I was riding in the car with my husband. He started going into worry about a snow plow truck that was plowing one of his properties. I felt myself getting sucked in to his worry and it got worse. I stopped in my thoughts and started G.O.L.F.ing. “I love you, I love you, I love you.” I started to myself. And, “I love you, I love you, I love you,” I thought to him. “Thank you (self) and thank you (husband) for walking this world with me. And, I am so sorry for the part of me that creates from the thought of worry in the world. For the part of me that forgets that I am connected to God, the Divine, and that there is nothing that I cannot do and nothing I need to worry about. I am so sorry for the part of me that feels that I am all alone and has to take care of everything. Thank you for helping me remember I can ask for anything. Please help him stop worrying and let him know everything will be alright.” I felt good.
Right then, the conversation shifted. “Oh, that’s right, he did a good job last time. I think it will be alright. He can always come out and plow more after the snow stops falling,” was the new conversation.
Rev. Patty Jackson is a Pathways of Light minister living in Sussex, WI.
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