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Excerpt from 905: Special Relationships VS Holy Relationships. T-15.IX.P7

T-15.IX. P 7
7 When the body ceases to attract you, and when you place no value on it as a means of getting anything, then there will be no interference in communication and your thoughts will be as free as God’s. As you let the Holy Spirit teach you how to use the body only for purposes of communication, and renounce its use for separation and attack which the ego sees in it, you will learn you have no need of a body at all. In the holy instant there are no bodies, and you experience only the attraction of God. Accepting it as undivided you join Him wholly, in an instant, for you would place no limits on your union with Him. The reality of this relationship becomes the only truth that you could ever want. All truth is here.

“When the body ceases to attract you, and when you place no value on it as a means of getting anything”
How do I do this? When I think I need a particular body to be in my sphere of influence or when I think I need it near me for the purpose of getting something, such as attention, affection, respect, proof that I am loved, comfort, stability, friendship, satisfaction, gratification or anything else, this is when I am attracted to the body and am placing value in it for what I can get from it.

This is the basis of the special relationship and this will not bring me happiness or peace because it places limits on communication. It is actually an attack. I might as well grab you up and imprison you because that is what I would be trying to do. I would imprison you to my needs. I can remember thinking and at one time in my life even saying, “If you loved me you would ________.” I can remember using guilt to control. “After all I have done for you, _____.”

I might as well have said, “You must keep your body here and use it to give me what I think I need from you. I will use you until I use you up and then I will trade you for a different body.” If that is not an attack I don’t know what is. Then my attacks became less frequent and more subtle. An “idle” thought, “Where are you when I need you?” “If only you were here.” “I wish you were here.”

By valuing someone as a body, which means valuing that one as a separate individual who is prized above others for what he/she can give me, I am attempting to separate that one from the whole and thus from God. Now I begin to see the scope of the attack! This attack continues as long as I look at a body and say that one is mine or is necessary to my happiness, for a moment or for a life time.

What happens as my relationships have been transformed? I don’t have need of a special love object. I simply love, as I have said before. I love fully and completely without any perceived needs or demands interfering with communication (which is the flow of love).

Not needing a particular body is what is meant by there will be no bodies. Bodies are a limit we place on God’s Son. So, if I think I need a special body onto which I will place my love and receive love in return, then I am trying to limit love (communication). I am saying that love goes only as far as the body I am interested in, and no further. If that body leaves me or disappoints me it takes away love and I hate it for my loss, and so love becomes something fragile and shifting and undependable and therefore fearful.

There will come a time when we know this in our hearts and we will truly have no need for bodies at all and the illusion will end. In the meantime, I can come closer to unrestricted communication as I allow the Holy Spirit to purify my relationships. The less neediness I bring into the relationship, the freer the communication, the closer it is to real love.
I was thinking about Byron Katie talking about relationships. She said something like this. If her husband thinks he loves her he is having a happy dream about her. If he decides he is not happy with her anymore then he is having a bad dream about her. She said if he wanted to leave her, she would let him go because she loves him. (Not anywhere near her exact words, but the general idea is right.)

She doesn’t need a particular body to be her love object and so she is free to love that particular body and to enjoy love without fear of loss. It is a way I test my assertion of love. If my child were to hate me for something I said or did, would that affect my experience of the relationship with him or her? Would it affect my love? Would it devastate me? Would it feel like a loss? It is my ultimate test of how close I am to true communication (true and holy relationship) as opposed to separation and attack (special relationship).

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