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Defend or Attack

I recently gave myself another opportunity to learn, and forgive.
These thoughts came to me.

The ego mind wants to defend itself against perceived attack. My partner is angered ‘cause I sent away the old chair that he used. My perception was: it was dirty, stained, upholstery worn thru. I questioned myself: Why should it be so important to me to have “nice” looking furniture?  The replacement for the old chair is not working out for him, it’s too low, and he can’t get the adjustment screws to hold tight. My misperceptions have made this up.

A brother’s perception is only my own. His “attack” is only a call for Love, help and healing. Which is my call for help and healing. Let me remember we are one Self; his pain reflects my belief in guilt. When I think that I am guilty I see that idea reflected back to me in my world. I will find my mistaken perception everywhere for the ego demands obedience, it demands to be “right” without question.

I was aware that the ego was trying to get me to defend, and each time I would hear its objections, I would say to myself—No, I won’t attack/defend. I am only seeing my own fears being reflected back to me. I am doing this.

I then used the Ho’oponopono prayer: “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.”

About an hour later, my partner came to me, gave me a kiss. I felt that I had forgiven my self.

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Posted by Rev. Mary Manke.

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