Realizing God's Will Is Oneness

Ending the Sickness of Specialness

The ego is all about special relationships.  The ego makes a body and has the body form attachments so that the body has special relationships with almost everything, places, things, music, titles, buildings, countries and the list goes on and on.  The most important special relationships are reserved for other bodies.  The ego even forms them with dead bodies for we have memorials to the dead of wars, accidents, terrorists and even sunken ships like the Titantic, all carrying an emotional charge for the “special” dead.

These special relationships of the ego often are so subtle we don’t think anything of them.  One politician gets our goat while another seems a hero.  The ego especially loves heroes and saviors, so some bodies play that role, like doctors and firefighters.  The ego body likes certain drugs and medicines that it feels it can’t live without.  The body likes substances and experiences that induce euphoria.  There are certain special places to pray that make the prayers exceptional.  There are certain special people that we feel must be part of our lives in order to be happy.

What does all of this get us, this quagmire of specialness?  Certainly not happiness because the ego does not see the world as a happy place.  For the ego, the world is a place of constant struggle and strife to make sure that specialness in some form is present, and then there is the tremendous fear of its loss and the accompanying depression.  It is perhaps the most challenging obstacle to overcome for the ego tries to keep specialness hidden from us by calling it other names.  And there is the world we seem to live in with its constant ego chatter and distraction pulling us in different directions.  There seems to be many choices to be made and that must be made.  Where does the bewildering quest to be and acquire the extraordinary all end?

It all ends with one choice, the only choice that means anything at all.  And that choice is to take all meaning to the Holy Spirit.  It is the choice to ask Him for truth in all things, all circumstances and events, and all relationships.  It doesn’t matter if its brand new or long standing, seems simple and easy or confusing, seems good or bad, important or inconsequential.  It’s the choice to see all relationships in the world as the same - all based on ego.  It is the choice to acknowledge that there is only one relationship and that is with God.  All the rest are to distract us from seeing this truth.  There is only Oneness.  This is the only true choice.

Holy Spirit uses all specialness we have made to help us awaken to the truth, but only if we are willing to give it up in all the forms we have made.  We cannot give Him some special relationships and keep others because they seem harmless enough.  Surely these small desires can’t make any difference, the ego says in its best cajoling voice.  Sometimes the smallest specialness seems the hardest to give up just because it seems so innocuous, just so convenient that we don’t recognize we are choosing the ego’s interest.  But all specialness is the same, it separates, it singles out, and it sets apart one from another in importance.  We need to come to recognize that it’s all unimportant and all the same in unimportance.

Only Holy Spirit can help us see the importance we have given to the unimportant.  In the measure of our willingness can He begin to do this.  Holy Spirit never forces us to look at our special relationships, never forces us to sacrifice them while we are still believing in the ego drama of sacrifice.  When we are willing to look at specialness, Holy Spirit will respond.  After all, He has been quietly calling us to do this in every instant.  When we begin to listen to this call, and give Him our willingness, He will do the rest. 

He will show us our attachments and help us to see clearly that instead of making us happy, they are robbing us of our joy and peace.  We then willingly let go of attachments as gently as letting go of dried rose petals, remains of a flower we once treasured for its beauty but now is dead, its color and fragrance gone.  It is easy to let the dead petals slip from our hand.  Just this easy will be the letting go of special attachments after we truly see they are of death, not life.  Special attachments do not serve us, they serve only the ego.  We did not see the rose was poison for our mind.

Opening the mind to the possibility of looking at specialness in all its forms is all that is asked of us.  Just this little willingness.  Holy Spirit’s willingness is perfect and He will help us see truly in the way that is perfect for us.  Let us leave the worldly flowers of poison and join with the Holy Spirit in the spiritual garden where the One Flower is pure and sweet and never dies, but lives in its eternal beauty.  We cannot breathe in the beauty, joy and peace of the One Flower until we let go of the poisonous bouquet we clutch in our hand.  Holy Spirit will heal us of the sickness of specialness if we allow Him to gently take this bouquet from us.

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